Response to Pillowtalk

Pillowtalk had some very interesting sequences in the film. One sequence that continues to stand out to me in the scene is the scene were Tony is harassing Jan. Jan having attended a client’s party, accepted the client’s son’s offer of a ride home. Tony appears to be a gentleman, however, during the ride he pulls the car over and forces himself on Jan. Jan pushes him away with difficulty, and warns him that she will tell his mother. He threatens by saying that no one would believe her. In order, to get him to stop she has to go have drinks with him. This whole scene was unsettling to me, because the movie attempted to address rape but I felt that it placed the responsibility solely on the victim (or the almost victim in this case).  Furthermore, it made Jan look small and inferior; here this young boy is being very disrespectful, he ignores her pleas and this behavior of his only stops when Brad steps in.

 

Response to “Activating the Negative Image”

“Activating the Negative Image” by Racquel Gates really opened my eyes to what reality television shows offer to different individuals. This idea of temporary habitation rather than identification is interesting. Gates shares, “It is a fantasy where the viewer gets to enjoy subject position of being both the object of desire and agent.” In general reality shows are not true depictions of how people behave in real life (well, most people); but it provides viewers with the opportunity to escape their own reality for a while and live in a “created reality”. Specifically, Gates talks about what reality television means for black women and she brings up what it means for black women to “act right” and how that has always meant “acting white”. She shares that for black women these shows are an escape from the burden of always having to know better and be the bigger person, in order to save face and not play into society’s expectation. Seeing other black women on reality television openly expressing their anger and otherwise unaccepted emotions, is a welcomed escape for the everyday black women who can’t.  Basically, the everyday black women lives vicariously through the black women on reality television who can openly share her thoughts and emotions.

Response to “Inventing the Cosmo Girl…”

“Inventing the Cosmo Girl: class identity and girl-style American dreams” was perhaps one of my favorite reads of the semester. Helen Gurley Brown’s creation of a new type of women who challenges the structure of a patriarchal society is really empowering. I think it is important that women know that they don’t have to fit into what society says a woman should be. The Cosmo Girl that she created helped women to see themselves as makers of their own success and helped rid them of the guilt and shame for doing what men do.  Brown’s creation is proof the self-representation matters and has always matter; instead of seeing themselves as below men, the Cosmo Girl helped women to see themselves as equals to men; capable of thriving in their work life, sex life and home life.

Response to “Why Won’t Twitter Forgive Suey Park?”

“Why Won’t Twitter Forgive Suey Park?” was an interesting read but, I can’t say it was surprising. The Internet can be a vicious place and many sit and wait for anyone to screw up so they can call them out on it. Today, not many people of capable of voicing an opinion without bashing someone else’s. I personally didn’t see anything wrong with what Suey Park said in her tweets, she felt that Stephen Colbert’s comments were offensive and she reacted to that. Whether her reaction was extreme or not isn’t for anyone to judge because you cannot tell people how to feel. I think that so much attention was placed on the fact that she called for a cancelling of Colbert’s show that no one focused on the comments he made and how and why they were offensive. This whole situation is hypocritical, American society will continuously emphasis their right to “freedom of speech”, but when the person utilizing that right is speaking against their own beliefs they get attacked. And social media has just made it easier to do this.

“Why Won’t Twitter Forgive Suey Park?”

Reading about Suey Park and how people reacted to her tweets is crazy but not surprising. Social media has become a way for a lot of people to express their ideas and opinions on almost anything. The problem with this is that once you put something on social media it is guaranteed that at least one person will always have a different opinion than yours and comment on it. Internet trolls are everywhere and sometimes they can really get you. Sometimes when posting something I am always cautious of what I post because I don’t want internet trolls to come for me. Sometimes I have even stopped myself from commenting on certain posts for this same reason.

Veteranas and Rucas Instagram Archive

I really enjoyed looking at this Instagram archive dedicated to the Southern California women raised from the 90’s and earlier. I think that all the pictures shared are great  and how every picture has a description about the photo. I think it was a great idea for them to start this Instagram page as an archive especially since Social Media  plays such a big role in our everyday lives now. This archive is a great way for many people from all around the country to look at and even serve as a source of inspiration for many others. I find myself really intrigued when I come across accounts like these because its like stepping back in time and seeing how culture has evolved since then.

Pillow Talk

After watching the movie it was very easy for me to distinguish what the movie was going to be about. Brad Allen, being the swooner plays the stereotype of the playboy, also known as a confident, smooth talker often with a substantial amount of money and a bachelor pad that takes advantage of what he can get. You see that they spend a lot of time in the bachelor pad throughout the movie. The entire room was made special to try and win his women over. From the special couch to his piano and mini bar, his room was made for a certain purpose and that was to get women. His attitude throughout the movie is also very calm and relaxed. He is a very “cool” guy that knows what he wants.

Forgetting Act Up

After watching the documentary created by the members of Act Up, I was able to fully understand the pain and suffering that someone with HIV/AIDS went through. Even though I do not have a first hand experience, this documentary opened my eyes up to the constant fight to survive with this disease. The most eye opening part of this documentary was when the group of protesters started throwing their friends ashes over the fence of the White House. I began to cry knowing that these individuals gave their life to Act Up, and they were truly a family that would stick together whether they were alive or dead. The whole idea of having to fight day in and day out for health care is extremely depressing. Knowing that a few people from Act Up are still alive is comforting, but there were so many more that died. I am grateful that I was able to watch this documentary, and I know more about the AIDS crisis now than ever before.

Betty Freidan’s The Feminine Mystique.

After reading this short article about the common restlessness and unhappiness women in the 1950’s had as just being housewife’s, I couldn’t believe that many women didn’t speak of this common phenomenon which they experienced. The normal during the 1950’s for women was believed to be that of being a loving and caring housewife who was happy to do house chores, take care of her children and her husband. For many women this was expected to be enough, but in reality it wasn’t enough because many women hated the idea of just being stuck at home doing chores, and taking care of their husbands and children. Most women wanted more than this but many women did not speak of how they felt to their husbands or to doctors. Women kept this common feeling among themselves and thought that it was just a problem that they faced.

It’s crazy to think that back then women were only considered to be good housewife’s and nothing more. I am glad that times have changed and that women have more freedom to do anything they want to do and it being ok to want something more than just being a housewife.